Female Energy Vampires And The Tarot
- Dee Conway
- Jul 1, 2018
- 7 min read
'Energy Vampires are simply people who have been caught up in a cycle of negative energy ...'.
Such a benign statement I feel ... and one that does not seem to highlight enough, the lunacy present in every one of these energy draining creatures, and the detrimental effect that they have on your own mental health. What guy/girl hasn't got at least one 'psycho' ex under his belt, huh? The world seems to be full to the brim with the mentally unstable, and with limited room in the sanitarium, the numbers freely roaming the streets of every day life are astonishing! If they looked like the vampire in the picture above, it would make life so much easier to avoid them don't you think?
The Tarot gives us fair warning when one of these individuals enters our sphere. But quite often we are drawn in to the intrigue they create regardless. With any of the Queens (Reversed), The Moon, The Devil, The High Priestess (Reversed), the Seven or the Nine Of Swords, the level of mental instability is intensified, and we need to be on our guard.
Around two years ago, I stumbled upon a distant family friend who had been betrayed, and cast by the wayside by an unfaithful lover, after almost a decade of misplaced love and devotion. I had encountered her several times before, on the fringes of occasional family gatherings. I noticed that she would sit just outside the social circle, observing the comings and goings from a cool distance. She wasn't especially popular, being deemed as 'not everyone's cup of tea' by the majority. The general consensus was that she was something of a snob, which many found intimidating and unnecessary. I never found her intimidating, I have to say, but I did notice how she never quite seemed to fit in, always keeping herself slightly aloof from the crowd.
Naturally, when her world fell apart, I felt some empathy for her misery, and reached out the hand of friendship in a gesture of emotional support. I had been in a similar situation myself, not so long before, and I felt that validation of her feelings, and a shoulder to cry on were the best forms of comfort I could offer her, given the circumstances. I hardly knew her really, and I didn't want to feel like I was imposing on her suffering.
She accepted my friendship, rather too eagerly I fear, and the fun and games begun. Over the course of our brief two year interaction, I had the pleasure of meeting the four faces of the Reversed Queens of the Tarot; all of them clearly depicted in this one individual. She transgressed through every suit (Wands, Cups, Swords Pentacles, in no particular order) on her journey of self destruction, from emotional neurotic drunk, to overbearing control freak, to repeated displays of unnecessary competitiveness, to downright egotistical crazy making lies about personal achievements, education, travel and even romantic relationships.
She gradually started to worm her way into other areas of my life, and the lives of those closest to me. She creepily befriended my friends, she didn't seem to have any of her own, which I found strangely odd. She started inviting herself along to planned days out, and then completely taking over the reigns. When she wasn't invited to an event, she would cover social media with unhappy faces as a means of drawing attention to her supposed exclusion from our group. (?) It was becoming annoying, manipulative nonsense. By the time she started emailing my boyfriend (without my knowledge), to ask him to come round and repair her phone or her TV, I'd just about had enough of her antics!
Energy vampires are shape shifters, and will play all kinds of games to allow them to feed off your energy, leaving you feeling depleted and drained after every interaction with them. In each of the Queens described below, I witnessed the very worst of the negative energies of each of the Tarot suits in my so called friend. Thankfully I have now taken steps to remove this individual from my life as quickly as possible, by cutting her off completely. The only real way of getting rid of an energy vampire is by avoidance. They need your energy to survive, and will cling on like a limpet, until the next mode of supply unwittingly comes along. There's always another sucker just around the next corner (no pun intended).
Queen of Cups (Reversed)
The Emotional Vampire
Emotional vampires enjoy sucking the very happiness out of your friendships. Rather than feasting on blood (like the vampires of legend), they feed on the positive emotional energy that exists in all human interpersonal relations with others.
She/he always seems to be lamenting about the exact same problems, The first time she asked for my ear, I gave her two. I talked her through her issues. Let her vent. And gave advice when needed, The second time, I gave her an ear and firmly instructed her on the proper course of action. She came up with an excuse as to why each of my suggestions wouldn’t work, although she had nothing in the way of alternative solutions to offer. I eventually came to the conclusion, after many times around the same ride, that she was an exasperating waste of my time and energy.
This vampire thinks the world is against her, and so I gritted my teeth and endured it when she checked in every few days to complain about her inconsiderate children, her money grabbing sister, or her depression and inertia with life in general. Illnesses seem to be another favourite topic of discussion, she would go into masses of detail about the simplest ailments, and didn't miss an opportunity to mention how *truly awful* she has been feeling today.
Weapons Of Choice - Emotional Blackmail, Pity Plays, Hysteria and Tears
The best way to handle these types of people is just avoid them, Don't get involved in being a sounding board for their self-pity.
Queen of Swords (Reversed)
The Narcissist
This vampire is grandiose, self-important, attention seeking, and hungry for admiration. She/he is so charismatic and intelligent that I didn't notice, at first, her tendency to constantly interrupt when I was talking about myself, and to rarely ask follow-up questions or inquire about how I was feeling except on a purely superficial level. This signaled to my intuition that something is amiss with her.
She wasn't beneath telling lies if she felt it will serve her agenda, however, little slip ups here and there would reveal inconsistencies in her stories if you listened closely enough. There have been so many instances where her details and her dates have not added up, where she has claimed to have done things, and traveled to places that are obviously a total figment of her imagination. She could never elaborate further on her dubious claims if questions were asked, but instead would swiftly change the subject. Underneath the flashy and intoxicating facade lies a fragile ego, which requires constant attention and validation, even the untruthful kind if her ego so requires it.
Weapons Of Choice - Dishonesty, Disingenuity and Crazy Making Manipulation..
The best way to handle these types of person is just to avoid them, Don't get caught up in their deceptions and manipulative behaviour.
Queen of Wands (Reversed)
The Drama Queen
The roller-coaster antics of a drama queen vampire can put you on overload, and burn you out. She/he have a flair for exaggerating small incidents and turning them into off-the-scale dramas. Life is always extreme, either unbearably good or bad. She/he spends her life flitting from crisis to crisis, energized by histrionics and chaos.
"Oh my God, you’ll never guess what happened?” was her signature opening line. Always hungry for any kind of an audience, she didn't take kindly to others stealing her limelight away. Her need to be at the forefront of any important occasion was bordering on desperate, cringe-worthy delusional head fuckery. I was unfortunate enough to have witnessed an episode of this behaviour first hand, quite recently, at a family wedding, where she attempted to upstage the mother of the bride with her fussing and bossing everyone around during the ceremony. It was embarrassing to watch her shamelessly try to turn the attention of the congregation in her own direction, without regard for the feelings of the couple who were actually getting married, and the bride's mother especially. The fact that she had been chosen to play an important role in the festivities went straight to her head, where others felt the need to comment on her audacity and sense of gloating superiority.
Weapons of Choice - Angry Outbursts, Pushy Dominance and Passive Aggressiveness
The best way to handle these types of women is to avoid them!! (like the plague).
Queen of Pentacles (Reversed)
The Point Scorer
This vampire feels qualified to judge and belittle you. Perhaps she/he gets her ego boosted by telling you that you 'have a lot to learn' with a smug look on her face. Always in the know about the latest fads and fashions, this shameful one-upper likes to prove that when it comes to food, wine, bars, history, culture or just about anything else, her taste is better than yours, or her intelligence is far in advance of anything you could comprehend. When you suggest a favorite restaurant, she’ll counter with one that’s more *authentic* - The power plays and unnecessary competitiveness become tedious, even irritating, as every conversation descends into a battle for supremacy on all fronts.
Lies are employed to pad out her dubious claims, but are also, at times, so fantastical, that they only serve to make her look foolish! Envious of your happiness or success, that only serve to accentuate her own feelings of inner inadequacy and misery, she secretly delights in your failings and scoffs at your achievements, behind the guise of the smiling companion (assassin), she plots your downfall. Never one to forget a slight or a crossed word. she waits patiently for her opportunity to enact her revenge.
Weapons Of Choice - Jealousy, Competitiveness and Revenge (Served Cold).
The best way to handle these types of women is just avoid them, Don't get involved in unnecessary competitiveness and pointless power plays.
A Last Word ....
We all deserve to be surrounded by people who are benevolent and who love us, inspire us, support us, and motivate us, not those who suck the very air out of us with their negativity, drama, anger, criticism, narcissism, or neediness. Emotional vampires are dangerous because they don't attack head on, but rather they insidiously work their way between the cracks in your sanity ... beware of these individuals at all costs.
Kommentare